A new documentary on seniors and dating

by | May 27, 2015 | Uncategorized | 0 comments

The Age of Love is a new documentary about dating over the age of 70. The film is being screened across the country, but I have no seen any dates in Indiana.

 Here is a note from the creator of the documentary on his inspiration for the film:

“While the world’s fastest-growing age group is 65 and over, when we consider love and desire, our youth-obsessed media still embrace the clichés. Rarely in our culture are older adults given voice as emotionally intricate individuals.

My desire to explore this issue began when my dad’s death ended an intense half-century love affair, leaving my still-vibrant mother struggling to face a new life alone. That same year, a 78-year-old uncle who’d never even dated suddenly met a woman, and they fell madly, adolescently in love. Trying to understand the needs of those closest to me, I searched the media for stories where seniors spoke openly about their intimate, emotional lives, but found very few.

And so, when a ‘healthy aging’ coalition in Rochester, NY announced a speed dating event exclusively for 70- to 90-year-olds (at which many chuckled), it struck me as both iconoclastic and obvious. Here was a unique chance to discover how age affects our desire to start over, to be held once again in someone’s arms, to seek new companionship and affection. And so I set out with one question: Do decades of life and loss constrict our hearts, or might time develop them in unexpected ways?

Unlike other recent documentaries on aging, I saw an opportunity to break social and generational barriers by looking at seniors not in terms of specific talents or communities, but through shared, human desires. By telling a story involving a universal quest, I could connect older adults directly to the mainstream through situations to which all can relate. Regardless of age, I thought, who doesn’t understand loneliness, or intimacy, or the search for love?

Gaining exclusive rights to the dating event and its participants, I filmed without a crew, aiming to develop easygoing, personal relationships with the speed daters and allow candid stories to emerge by following their everyday routines. I listened both for humor and confessional poignance, and discovered a wide-ranging story by piecing together this ensemble of voices. In the end, I was amazed by how these outwardly unremarkable 70- to 90-year-olds, from the generation before baby boomers, opened up so willingly.

By attracting a wide audience with the humorous premise of ‘grandparents going speed dating’, THE AGE OF LOVE becomes a provocative entertainment that also addresses our society’s most insidious preconception of aging—that the emotional needs of anyone over 65 are similar and self-evident, limited to health and financial concerns and largely unrelated to those of younger generations.

On the contrary, as we watch these seniors navigate the comedy and drama of dating, their actions and emotions combine into something much deeper—revealing how the desire to love and be loved not only connects hearts of young and old, but, more unexpectedly, remains just as confounding, nerve-wracking and rewarding at any stage in life.

We’re all destined to age, and the aged were all once young. As an unmarried filmmaker somewhere in the middle, this project represents, in many ways, my own journey to understanding love and relationships. The key for me, and, hopefully for all audiences, is that this story lets us meet characters we thought we knew, but in their own space and in their own words, without assumption or judgment—introducing new voices to mainstream media that cannot be easily categorized or dismissed.”

Steven Loring
March 2015
Brooklyn, NY



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